A UKCP-registered psychotherapist, Stephanie White, has highlighted that a year is a short period to process grief, especially after a long-term relationship and the birth of a child. This advice comes in response to a reader's query about dating after the death of her partner of 16 years, who died of cancer last year.
White questioned whether individuals in such situations have learned to trust their own judgment, particularly if they were with their partner for most of their adult life. She also suggested that a 'trauma bond' could develop between people who have both experienced tragedy, and that some might unconsciously try to skip phases of the grieving process by finding a 'facsimile' for their former partner.
Grieving is described as a long process, with a crucial part being the acceptance of the death and the end of an expected life narrative. White advised taking things slowly, prioritising oneself and any children, and not rushing into new caring roles. Support networks, therapy, or groups like Widowed and Young were also suggested.